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Holy Harm
For four decades, spiritual communities have chosen the preservation of their teachers and traditions over the protection of the people inside them. The belief systems that made that possible are still active.
Culture & Spirituality
Feb 22
How Patience Impacts Your Nervous System, Relationships, and Inner Peace
Patience is often framed as virtue, but it’s also a nervous system skill. This essay explores how patience shapes regulation, affects relational dynamics, and fosters inner peace when you learn to stay present rather than react.
Relationships
Feb 22
Beyond Trauma Identity: Empowerment, Kindness, and Relational Healing
This essay explores how trauma shapes identity and why validation alone does not produce empowerment. Drawing from Scott Barry Kaufman’s "Rise Above", it reframes healing as an active reconstruction of selfhood supported by relational kindness, agency, and community. Trauma may mark us, but it does not have to define us.
Capacity
Feb 22
Co-Regulating With Spirit: Nervous System, Presence & Relational Capacity
This essay explores co-regulation with spirit as a nervous system process: how shared presence, attention, and subtle resonance contribute to regulation without losing personal sovereignty, and what that means for relationships and inner coherence.
Culture & Spirituality
Feb 22
Overcoming Polarization: How to Hold Tension, Think Critically, and Stay Sovereign
In a hyper-polarized world, nervous systems are overwhelmed and certainty feels safe. This essay explores why polarization takes hold and how training your nervous system to sit with ambiguity, hold tension, and think critically helps you maintain sovereign thought and deeper discernment.
Capacity
Feb 21
How Relationship Challenges Help You Grow
Explore how relationship struggles become opportunities for growth, self-awareness, and nervous system mastery.
Relationships
Feb 21
Essays on Capacity, Presence, and Relationships
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